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Kelly is the mother of 5 adorable kids--4 boys and a girl. The girl came in a package with a boy (twins). Kelly is married to a charming young man who lives and breathes computers. They are also guardians for three nieces and a nephew.

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Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Forgiveness

What do you say to someone who says that you may write one last time but that they will not respond? For a year and a half I contemplated this very subject because I was given that directive as a long time friend had walked away.

I knew that I could not waste words. I knew that I had one chance. Then I heard a song that I had heard many times before. But this time I really heard it.

The following are from The Living Years by Mike and the Mechanics:

Crumpled bits of paper
Filled with imperfect thoughts
Stilted conversations
I'm afraid thats all we've got.

You say you just don't see it
He says it's perfect sense
You just can't get agreement
In this present tense
We all talk a different language
Talking in defense.

Say it loud, say it clear
You can listen as well as you hear
It's too late when we die
To admit we don't see eye to eye.

So we open up a quarrel
Between the present and the past
We only sacrifice the future
It's the bitterness that lasts.

So don't yield to the fortunes
You sometimes see as fate
It may have a new perspective
On a different day
And if you don't give up, and don't give in
You may just be okay.

Say it loud, say it clear
You can listen as well as you hear
It's too late when we die
To admit we don't see eye to eye.

When I heard these words I realized that I no longer held any hard or ill feelings toward my friend. I knew what I had to say.

This past November I penned the words from my heart and sent them off. I wondered if they would even be read or if they would be tossed to the side without a look. But I knew that I had to send them anyway.

This last Saturday I got a Christmas card in the mail. It didn't say much. But is spoke volumes. It didn't even say how they were doing. But as I think more and more about that card I realize that my sadness has also gone away. My friend had read my words. My friend had responded.

I may not get more than a Christmas card in the years to come, but I have not completely lost my friend.

I have learned that with a little bit of forgiveness it is not the bitterness that lasts.


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10 Comments:

On Wednesday, December 24, 2008 6:33:00 AM, Blogger FJ wrote...

Merry Christmas!

You never know what the future may bring.

 
On Wednesday, December 24, 2008 6:54:00 AM, Blogger *Juliet* wrote...

Kelly, its HIS/THEIR loss. Look at how many months has gone by that HE has missed by not being in your life. I'm extremely impressed that he sent you a card this year. That does speak volumes.

Your faith has always seen you through rough times in your life, and it continues to shine even in this circumstance. I'm so glad you have found your way to forgiveness, so that now you can move on without bitterness.

Look at all the new friends you have acquired since then?

And, you continue to be a blessing to me. My life would NOT be the same if you were not in it.

XOXOXOXO ((hugs))

 
On Wednesday, December 24, 2008 8:20:00 AM, Blogger Kelly wrote...

FJ, you have a Merry Christmas, too!

This last year and a half has also brought me a new friend. You are right in that we never know what the future brings.

To all those friends who have been there for me...YOU ARE THE BEST!

"Juliet",

It has been their loss, but it is ok.

I am glad that you are part of my life, too!!!

 
On Wednesday, December 24, 2008 8:34:00 AM, Blogger nanc wrote...

MERRY CHRISTMAS!

sometimes it's best to count your losses and move on and yes, you have made new friends.

i LOVVVVVVVVVVVVE mike and the mechanics, paul carrack (we call him paul cartop) is one of our faves - there's faith built into many of his songs.

 
On Wednesday, December 24, 2008 2:03:00 PM, Blogger Kelly wrote...

I like Mike and the Mechanics, as well.

I have used one of their songs before on my blog.

All I need is a Miracle

This latest one has turned me into a fan.

 
On Friday, December 26, 2008 4:41:00 PM, Blogger Phelonius wrote...

Kelly,

I have grieved for you over the loss that you experienced, but at the same time I still maintain what I have always said about that issue.

A real friend will find the time and wherewithal to overcome the occasional problem.

I want to echo Juliet. You have been a blessing to me and even some of mine, and I thank the Maker that you have been there for me, and the times when I have been able to return that friendship.

You are a genuine and good human being, and I hope that this year gives you many more blessings. In the meantime, your putting up with me has sure made my life a lot more fun and interesting! Never mind blessed!

 
On Friday, December 26, 2008 7:42:00 PM, Blogger Brooke wrote...

What a good song.

Kelly, after you speak your peace the ball is in their court.

 
On Saturday, December 27, 2008 1:12:00 PM, Blogger Kelly wrote...

One thing that I had said in the letter to this friend was that I could not begrudge them for not being in my life because I had some really incredible friends and awesome family.

I see how right I was in that.

:)

 
On Wednesday, December 31, 2008 8:46:00 PM, Blogger nanc wrote...

HAPPY NEW YEAR, KELLY AND FAMILY!

hope it's a great one.

now i must adjust my party hat...

<*:]

 
On Friday, January 02, 2009 4:43:00 PM, Blogger Phelonius wrote...

Never forget, Kelly, that you are the one in the "driver's seat."

People can hurt you if you allow it.

Do not allow it.

I am flattered that you consider me a friend, but I am ever aware that it is up to me to fulfill MY responsibilities to you as your friend. Taking personal responsibility for what another human thinks or does is an exercise in futility.

These people here that have taken the time to write you and express admiration and love for you do so because they WANT to. I want to. That is not your responsibility either, but it has meaning because it is voluntary on our part.

In MHO that guy just lost out altogether if he does not want to really know you.

 

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