A new blog of interest
I would like to make a plug for yet another blog. This blog was set up by my husband but he included me as a contributor. This new blog (A Tangled Web) at http://tangleweb.blogspot.com/ was set up to help other people who are faced with rasing the children of relatives for whatever reason, but mostly for those who are raising these children because of the behavior of the parents.
When we began our own journey in taking care of three nieces and a nephew we had no idea what resources there were to help us. We have had to do a lot of leg work and still find ourselves seeking answers. We want to share what we have learned and seek out those who may have something to share, as well.
If you know someone who is in this situation please pass the word.
Thank you,
Kelly
posted by Kelly @ 1/27/2007 12:00:00 PM
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I have already told you what i think about your struggle, and I meant every word of it.
I have never been a legal guardian of any children but my own, however, I have had many "lost sheep" pass through my house. Some of the kids that my kids hang with are from broken homes, shattered homes, and downright nuclear wastes of homes. The thing I find interesting is that they prefer to be here, rather than hang out at any one of several homes.
I am strict, but kind. I am moral, but I will talk to you. I am "Mr. Mom" and at the house at the wierd hours when a lot of parents are still working. What I find interesting is that more than a couple of these kids want to talk to me about thier future, about school problems and issues, and about their girlfriends.
The oddest part to me is that they seem to crave a strong man to impose discipline. When they get wild in the house or they are fighting amongst themselves, and I yell at them, it looks like a military parade. They line up, and they answer me with "yes, sir! and No, sir."
I think that what children and young adults need more than anything is the sense that the universe IS ordered, and that there IS a right and a wrong, and that this is discernable, and more than that, correct behaviour is EXPECTED. What blows my mind is that when it comes to the preferrable place to be it is here. With the discipline. My wife tells me that they know instinctively that the discipline comes from a deep sense of caring. Well, that I do. What I never figured on was the response.
So what you are doing for those kids is simply invaluable. God blesses those that help themseolves, but the rewards for helping the innocent are repaid a thousand times fold.
Kudos
Phelonius,
What an awesome Dad (Mr. Mom) you are. Many kids are rebellious because they want to know where the boundaries are. They come to your house because they want those boundaries. You give them that. They can trust you. They know what to expect and what is expected of then.
You are doing them a great service.
I also know that you meant what you said about my struggle. I could sense that.
JB, :)
Oh, I am not anything special. That is easy to see if you look at my life. I do admire those that have had the calling to be something more and do something about it.
That has been my complaint...I am not really anything special.
What we have is ordinary people doing what OUGHT to be done. They are there at the crossroads for people/kids who need them.
Well, that is sure the truth. It does not matter what we have to begin with as much as what we do with what we have. The sheer amount of grief and pain that a lot of these broken homes go through is enough to boggle the mind. Please, though, allow me my admiration for those of you that, like you, have taken ordinary means and transformed them into a place that will change lives. THAT is worth notice, my dear.
JB, Okay, I will let you have that...
..since you insist.
I really needed this today. :)
See my next post.
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